in Calgary, some of us do the same.
if one of us finds something relatively new,we text each other first to see if local members need it first.
then,once we know so and so already has whatever,we post it up here for others...moreso the amount of lurkers and scalperswho simply log on to here for just the sightings but never contribute to the site.
to the op,i ran into the same issue with both metroplex and devastator....wasting both gas and time searching....
in the end I caved.my little sister works at a local tru but I don't like to bug her.
I eventually simply got her(you can usually get any customer service person,most of them do care)to go online at the tru site from their computer at the cs desk,ordered it,made sure it was delivered to the store and not my house,and I got them both and saved gas and time.
just don't send it to your house as the delivery guys don't care and simply drive up,drop it on your front step,ring the bell and run.
if you're not home,your package is now vulnerable to anybody who walks by and according to their system,technically it's been delivered and out of their hands.....
besides working on relationships with local fellow members,try to get in closer with local tru workers.
next time you see one,if they're not too busy,help break up their long work day by taking a few minutes and chatting/nerding out with them.
you'll be amazed at the results.
besides my little sister working there,i have around 5-6 different workers at a local tru telling me what's incoming from certain toy lines/statues/busts/exclusives/etc.
a lot of the younger guys working there are collectors too