Thank you for the very honest advice.
We're lucky in that most of our friends are where we are in their lives so there's not much peer pressure yet, and most of our family is understanding or obviously want us to get married first. And the ones who would probably bug us most about having kids we don't see often anyway, so that's alright.
It used to be that I wanted kids and she didn't, then we both got used to being young and free and childless but now I think we're at the point where we feel like we probably want 1 or 2 eventually, but not yet. Neither of us feel responsible enough to devote all our time to a tiny version of ourselves yet. We're getting pretty good at taking care of our old cat though, so that's a step in the right direction.
She is starting to feel compelled a bit though. Before, babies were kind of foreign and gross and unfathomable, and now holding our friend's sister's baby was probably the best thing that happened to her all year.
And she watches
documentaries. So I may be eventually doomed. Haha, but it's okay, because I always saw myself having kids eventually anyway. I do want to have that experience of seeing the world and growing up again through their eyes.