With gifts, we more or less broke even with the event itself (hall, food), but everything else outside of that (DJ, photographer, dress, invitations, etc) we paid out of our own pockets. Which is fine; considering what we were going for, we weren't expecting to come out in the positive anyways.
I *do* know the ballpark of how much was spent in total at my wedding; though I'm afraid of posting it here.
My advice: do NOT start collecting expensive Hot Toys Iron Man figures three weeks before the wedding.